“What, specifically, in any of this president’s past indicates he cares about the poor or the middle class? What? Tell me:
My take: Trump will do what ever benefits him and his ego and he’ll use any means necessary to get what he wants. That’s his entire life’s track record.” Continue reading
Everyone is confronted (aka victimized) by bad behavior from time to time. Sometimes it comes at the hands of a boss. Or spouse. Or friend. Or customer service rep. Or fellow driver. Or any number of other people whose paths cross ours.
It was tempting to write bad “people” versus bad “behavior.” But that would be an overreach. I used to think there were bad people. And perhaps there are. But I now try to distinguish people from their behavior, recognizing that all (or at least the vast majority of us) do some bad things at times. Moreover, I’m weary of the demonization of people, which seems to be a national pastime among certain groups. So I’ll focus on behavior.
All of us are imperfect of course. All of us wear gray hats. When we think our hat is pure white, or others’ hats are pure black, we delude ourselves, not in a benign way, but in a toxic way. Unfortunately, it’s a story that sells, particularly in times such as this. But it’s based in something other than reality.
In any case, no matter where people land on the morality and ethics continuum, people are capable of behaviors that can fairly be described as bad — at least from our perspective. Basically, it means it’s hurtful to us. Or disadvantages us or others in a way that seems unfair to us. You’ll know it when you see it, Vera. And when you feel it. And I guarantee you, you will see and feel it in your life. Perhaps many times.
I’m writing about this because I haven’t been very good at dealing with bad behavior, at least not in my personal life. I’m better at it in my professional life, that is, when representing people or organizations as their lawyer. I suppose it’s easier in that context because it’s not personal with me and, therefore, I’m not emotionally invested. In one’s personal life, it’s hard not to react emotionally.
So what have I learned over the years about reacting to bad behavior? Continue reading
I forget how bad TV is. We haven’t subscribed to cable in four years. I can’t image why we didn’t drop it sooner. And I can’t image ever re-subscribing again. It’s that bad.
I was reminded of its destructive power on this short road trip we’re on to Montana and Wyoming. In the hotel room, I’ve watched some TV shows. That was a mistake. The number of commercials made the experience unwatchable. You can have it. But that wasn’t the worst of it. Fox “News” was the worst. Continue reading
I was struck in the face with this reality last week. I was surprised that I was surprised. I thought I had a good grasp on how culture had changed. But it turn out it’s changed more than I had thought. That realization was very unsettling.
Last week I discovered that the word “wrong” had become obsolete. Well, perhaps not entirely. But almost. Continue reading
You have amazing opportunity, Vera. You have a great family. And you were born in the United States, a land of unparalleled opportunity. In short, you’ve been dealt a strong hand. Now all you have to do is play it well.
I wouldn’t profess to tell you how to play your hand. That’s your call. But I’m confident you’ll do just fine.
The best I can do is share some of the things I’ve learned over the years about playing one’s hand. They’re personal to me, so don’t try to blindly transfer them to you. Nonetheless, here are a few: Continue reading
I’ve never tried to implement a bad idea in my life. No one has. If we didn’t think the idea was good, and sound, we would have abandoned it. Yet plenty of bad ideas have taken root. And damaged our society, institutions and companies. And each other and ourselves. Here are just a few of the obvious societal ones in my lifetime: Continue reading