Avoiding Terror

I’ve never been the subject of a criminal investigation. But I know people who have been — who lived in fear of being prosecuted and imprisoned. In a few cases, their worst nightmares came to fruition: they had to serve time.

One thing I’ve observed: when you’re the target of a criminal investigation and live with the fear of going to prison and having your life turned completely upside down, it instills pure terror. Even men who normally walk with a swagger and play the role of the strongest chimpanzee in the jungle melt into a puddle of fear. Terror works that way.

You might think this is an odd point to make to one’s granddaughter. But I learned something else along the way: the terror that I reference has visited sons and daughters from good families. One never knows who might cross the line.

There’s a lot of pressure to cross the lines these days. I know people in the business world who have crossed more than one line. Some were discovered by law enforcement. Most weren’t.

The pressure to “succeed” in America is intense. And the fear of losing one’s job can be pretty intense, too. It causes people to do stupid stuff — stuff that could land them in jail.

So I no longer think the terror of criminal prosecution is restricted to those who live on “the other side of the track.” I’ve learned that the odds of the getting caught and prosecuted are greater over there, but I’ve also discovered there is more criminality on the “good side” of the tracks than most people imagine.

Personally, I think it’s foolish to cross the line, to subject oneself to possible prosecution. But many people don’t share my concern. Many people are willing to take a lot of risk. I’ve kept some of these people from being prosecuted and from going to jail. But I’ve also visited some of them in prison.

Recently, we learned that our president is under criminal investigation (or at least that’s what he says). Based on what I know about his actions, he has reason to be concerned. Whether his concern has blossomed into terror yet, I don’t know.

It’s obvious, though, that his life and well-being are being affected. Unfortunately, when our president is under the spotlight like this, all of our lives will be affected.

I have no idea how any of this will turn out. I’ve gotten people out of worse predicaments than the president seems to be in, but, of course, I don’t have all the facts. Some of those facts may be helpful. Some may be damning. In any case, the spotlight that’s shining on this matter is unlike any normal case. Bright lights have a way of exposing dark corners.

If I could advise Mr. Trump, I’d tell him several things. First, stop tweeting. Second, stop digging. Third, stop acting so damn guilty.

People who make stupid decisions often make the situation worse by digging the hole even deeper. The president has been digging a lot lately. He needs to stop.

One way people often dig their holes deeper is by lying. It’s rarely a successful strategy. Indeed, it’s often the very thing that ensures things will turn out poorly. The president needs to stop lying. Unfortunately, it may not be possible for this man to do that. Lying has become who he is. This, combined with a deep-rooted insecurity, is usually a recipe for disaster.

As I’m sitting here this morning, Vera, I can’t imagine you would ever do anything that could put you into legal jeopardy. That said, I’m sure many, many parents and grandparents of future felons thought the same thing.

It’s quite possible you may feel the pressure to do the wrong thing at some point in your life. You may feel your job is at stake. Or your financial survival. Whatever fear or pressure may be present, my hope is that you will be strong and courageous and take the high road. Never approach, let alone cross, the line. Do nothing that unfairly injures another person or institution. Never put yourself into a position similar to the one our president has created for himself.

Terror is real. Keep it at bay.

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