Having options is powerful. And freeing. You can’t be anyone’s slave if you have options. Or beholden to anyone. Yet few of us focus on creating and building options.
In school, we’re not taught about such things. I’m not sure most of us are taught such things at home, either.
I don’t think I taught my boys about options. I should have.
I want you to understand about options, Vera. And about the risks associated with having none. And how liberating the power of choice can be.
Options don’t always seem like a good thing, though. Several options are presenting themselves to me presently. Part of me wishes they hadn’t appeared. Options call out for choice.
But sometimes choices seem overwhelming. Or risky.
What if I make the wrong choice?
The older I’ve gotten, the less confidence I have in my ability to choose well. Perhaps it’s because I focus too much on some of the wrong choices I’ve made. Perhaps it’s because, at this stage of my life, I’m less concerned with winning or succeeding.
Yet having options is better than having none, of that I’m fairly certain.
There are different ways of creating options. And I suppose there are some that haven’t even occurred to me.
A few that occur to me are:
- a willingness to take risks (conquering fear)
- being good at what you do (valuable to others)
- saving and staying out of debt
- investing in yourself (continuance improvement)
- avoiding ruts and complacency
- nurturing true friendships
- being well read
- having good insight to what’s happening in the world
- rejecting the twin gods of materialism and consumerism
- associating with doers
- associating with good people
- being who we are and not the person we think others want us to be
- recognizing the true nature and source of security and contentment
- being a giver and not a taker
- a longing to be free
Humans seem to sense that power is good, but then go about looking for it in all the wrong places. And mistake dominance for power. And fail to see the ways we unwittingly undermine our own power and freedom.
I’m not sure many of us seek the power to make choices. The power to have a true choice.
I think we’d be better off if we did.